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31 Days: Twenty-Four

Today's happy fun topic: List your three worst traits.



1) Lack of self-confidence. I blame it on being made fun of in junior high and high school for being smart. There's also being conditioned as a woman to not take credit for my own work and to brush off what I do as not interesting or valuable. I keep hoping that what they call Imposter Syndrome will go away, but no luck so far.

2) Laziness/expecting someone to pick up after me. I laugh whenever I read some stupid article that claims the reason women spend more time doing housework because they have higher standards than men, because nope, that's not how it works in my household. I know I should be better about putting stuff away and doing my share of the cleaning without being asked, but I have this amazing ability to consider piles of stuff as part of the furniture rather than as problems to be dealt with.

3) The mistaken belief that if I ignore things I have to do that I'm already embarrassed about putting off, they'll take care of themselves. This applies to keeping in touch with friends, household chores, work obligations, etc., etc. The guilt and shame over having not done whatever it is already make me bury it even further, which isn't exactly helpful. I've started to make a little progress on this front with a pomodoro-like app that allows you to set a timer for tasks on your to-do list. If I can poke myself to "just work on it for ten minutes," I'll often get into it enough that I can finish it already. So there is hope. :)

Do any of these sound familiar?

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galwithglasses
Aug. 16th, 2013 05:39 am (UTC)
Procrastination, panic and piles of paper are about as many of the 7 Ps as I ever get. (I hate being reminded of the 7 Ps. They are anti-mess, pro planning. If I was to be labeled with a scarlet letter, it would be a big P for proper prior planning violations.) If it's not under my nose, I won't remember it, hence to-do piles instead of lists. But then there is always something that gets put in the pile on top of more important stuff and then there is no joy in Mudville.

My self-confidence level is situational. Depends on the subject or location or number of strangers. Junior high stunk and high school only slightly less because I got a job and had somewhere where somebody thought being a geeky smart girl in hand-me-downs was good for something. Bless libraries. It got better and continues to be good. Now I just have to get my daughter through all of that without having her self-confidence smushed.
zubeneschamali
Aug. 25th, 2013 03:29 pm (UTC)
The 7Ps?
galwithglasses
Aug. 25th, 2013 04:22 pm (UTC)
Proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance...bah, humbug. I think it was a Boy Scout thing.

harrigan
Aug. 16th, 2013 11:30 am (UTC)
SO very familiar! (And an interesting topic to ponder. I've decided I share your traits, but I have three that are worse for me.)
zubeneschamali
Aug. 25th, 2013 03:31 pm (UTC)
Mr. Z and I like to joke that the examined life isn't necessarily worth living, either, if you know what your faults are but can't get over them!
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